Here’s what I’ve learned: you cannot run your best race if you are always looking at how others are doing and comparing yourself. If you’re always entertaining the fear of missing out then that is exactly what will start to happen… you will miss out what is directly in front of you. You cannot do things for the sake of pleasing everyone around you. You’ll exhaust yourself trying. It might be time to take a step back, focus inward and make some much-needed adjustments.
In my own journey with social media, there have been two things I’ve done that actually help me. They empower me. They have (as dramatic as it sounds) given me my life and emotions back.
Instagram recently announced that it is trying out something new with some users in Canada. They’re experimenting with a like-free environment. What do you think?
Something is working up against your ability to create and you need to stare it in the face. The smartphone was designed with addictive habits in mind. The creators of apps want you to spend hours and hours on your phone, scrolling for satisfaction. That’s why it is so hard to tell yourself, “Just two more minutes” before you log off Instagram or X out the dating apps. The apps are designed to get you craving notifications while providing you with an endless scroll so your brain can keep devouring this feeling of being rewarded.
The research is all there (and has been there) for a long time that distractions are messing with our productivity and ability to meet a bottom line. We are preoccupied. Our emotions are wrapped up in too many things. We are going back and forth between the phone and the work. We are wondering why we cannot focus but the problem is right in front of us.
I need to step back and help you see what you might be missing. The following notes are of things I noticed going on in my spirit— shutting on and off sporadically like faulty lightbulbs— up until I made some changes.
I once had a girl email me and ask how I heard from God. She said she was a little annoyed by me and the way I would write as if God and I were casually chitchatting over coffee every morning.
I reference it a lot in my writing. God whispered. God spoke. God said. I realize I address God as if we are sitting down together for morning coffee and he is dictating my day for me. I also realize that it doesn’t really work that way.
I never want to come off like God whispers to wake me up in the morning or I hear this slow, steady, streaming voice throughout my daily interactions, as if he’s the voice of Siri.
This summer marks 7 years of self-employment I can hardly believe it. I get plenty of emails from aspiring writers and decided to put this resource together to compile the most vital tips I’ve collected over the years when it comes to writing full-time in many different avenues.
This world is full of needs. Your existence and your creations fills some of those needs. Focus more on those needs than the people who try to shut you down. In the words of the wise sage Taylor Swift- haters are absolutely going to hate. Let them. You can't stop them anyway. Shake it off and get back to your creation process.
What if I told you only one person would read that next blog post you wrote. That one person would sit at their computer and scroll through your words and they would take notes. They would tack some quotes to the wall. They would borrow your strength. They would make a brave decision. What if I told you one person’s life would be changed because of the words you sat down to write? Would one person be enough for you?