Placing the happy in front of the ending
We grow up knowing this. Anything that is good surely cannot last forever. Anything worthwhile and special to us relies on the fact that it has some kind of ending point. An expiration date.
We can convince ourselves that good byes don't exist and that we can hold time in the palm of our hand and dicate when it will stop and when it will go. But be warned, a sad reality awaits around the corner when another ending comes to sit at our feet.
We need to live with the ending in mind. If I have learned anything in this past semester, more valuable than the papers that I wrote and the lessons that I was taught in the classroom, it is that when we keep the ending in the picture the story line becomes all the more sweeter.
When we keep the ending in mind, we start to think "why not."
When we keep the ending in mind, we start to say "we should."
When we keep the ending in mind, we forget the "I will find time later," or the pushing of people to the back burner.
When we keep the ending in mind, every moment becomes special.
When we keep the ending in mind, we remember that these days are not to be played with, they are to be treasured and used.
Now I dont ask you to treat your life like a story book with your thumb placed on the last page, but I do encourage you to look at the people all around you, today and tomorrow and think about how much you value their presence. What would life be like without them? Would you be the same person? Have they taught you something that you would not have learned otherwise? Do they know this?
We should always be mindful of the fact that we cannot slap timers on peoples' backs and expect them to stay forever. Life does not work that way. Some endings come when we least expect them.Some endings are known from the beginning.
Either way there is no excuse. There is no excuse for not telling someone how much they mean to us. There is no excuse for not making time for the people that we love. There is no excuse for not building relationships that make saying good bye so hard to do. I have decided that I would much rather have a memorable experience, one that I can hold close to my heart rather than one that I held back from because I knew it would end too soon.
Keep the ending in mind, not because it makes life seem cruel but because it's there. But dont let the ending get in the way of starting something or letting something grow. The ending should remind us that this moment is sweet and once in a life time. This moment will never be duplicated. We should never take the time we have been given and the people that we have been blessed with for granted.
Forget the clock on the wall.
Go hug your friends. Call your family. Let people know how you really feel.
Things end. Don't let the fact hinder you, let it remind you of what it really and truly important.
This post has been dedicated to Celia Fox. Today we found our ending point but have already forged a new beginning. Let the world be your playground. You are ready.