Posts in Letting Go
Should I stay or should I go now?

I received an email the other day from a reader currently in the middle of “Come Matter Here.” She asked a really great question, one I’ve wrestled with a great deal.  She wrote to me, “I was wondering where you draw the line between planting your roots down to grow and “being where your feet are” and let’s just say, for instance, moving to the beach for a year. I love to travel and be spontaneous and I guess I was just wondering if it is bad to do that?”

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How to say goodbye.

Goodbye is the fear-- temporary and real-- that we’ve carried for years up until that one word-- short & stout-- made it all tip over and all pour out: I am afraid to leave. I am afraid to change. Can you just keep me here? Can we never move? I’m afraid you will forget me. I’m afraid I’ll be forgotten in a room full of people who always seem to be remembered.

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Blessings & the barren places: What I know of letting go.

I just discovered your blog like a week ago, I couldn't even tell you how it happened, but I definitely needed it. You probably get a million of these emails all the time, but I am writing you because I am just in the worst place right now. I feel like I have the world's hugest broken heart, and I'm constantly fighting it, day after day.

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Fishing lines of loneliness & a decent chance to walk away.

I’ve started calling them the “fishing lines of loneliness.” The ways we bait one another into communication because we are all so afraid of what would really happen if the screen shut off and we had to face ourselves. Alone. Single. Separate from the wreckage of relationships we should have said goodbye to yesterday.

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